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Why do the people we care about most sometimes cause us the greatest pain?
Gen Leksang
In this episode, Gen Kelsang Leksang explores one of life’s great mysteries — why do the people we care about most sometimes cause us the greatest pain? She begins by drawing a clear distinction between two things we often mistake for the same feeling: love and attachment. One is a source of lasting peace; the other, she explains, is like chasing a mirage. Through relatable examples she exposes the negative emotional mechanics functioning in our closest relationships. And offers a way out.
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