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Jul 31, 2026
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Taking the pain out of loss
Gen Gomlam reveals the root cause of the pain we sometimes feel when we experience loss and separation — an exaggerated sense of need that tells us we cannot be happy without a particular person.
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Understanding the mind
Gen Gomlam
The sadness we feel when we go through loss or separation is not coming from the loss itself, it’s coming from the irrational mind of attachment. Buddha gives scientific teachings on how our pain is created by this and other negative states of mind. Based on Understanding The Mind by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso, Gen Gomlam explains that by understanding the distinction between love and attachment and realising how Buddhist wisdom overcomes this irrational and painful mind, we can heal our emotional pain.
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How to Understand the Mind
Modern Buddhism
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