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Attachment is the real pain-producer lurking in our hearts.

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15:25 · 2026年6月19日 Gen Gomlam

Relationships Understanding the mind

Gen Gomlam

Gen Gomlam explains that our worst mental habit — desirous attachment — is very sneaky. Unlike the pain of anger or jealousy, attachent actually feels good at first. It exaggerates people’s good qualities and hides the bad, creating an illusion of perfection that inevitably leads to pain.

Further reading in the following book:
How to Understand the Mind

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