Directeur spirituel général
La paix intérieure, une cause de la paix mondiale
Sep 16, 2026
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Are You Loving Them or Needing Them?
Real love is a mind that wants others to be happy — full stop. It values them, respects them, and just wants them to be happy. No conditions.
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Gen Devi follows what happens once the fantasy fades — the honeymoon ends, we feel the person has changed, and we blame them for no longer matching our projection. She shows the way out: removing attachment rather than abandoning the people we love, taking responsibility for our own mind, and switching our focus from ourselves to others as the true source of lasting happiness.
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