{"id":770246,"date":"2026-03-07T17:00:00","date_gmt":"2026-03-07T17:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kadampa.org\/podcast\/pain-is-not-from-loss"},"modified":"2026-03-07T17:00:00","modified_gmt":"2026-03-07T17:00:00","slug":"pain-is-not-from-loss","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/kadampa.org\/fr\/podcast\/pain-is-not-from-loss","title":{"rendered":"Pain Is Not From Loss"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>I Grieved for 20 Years\u2026 Until I Learned This<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>We are delighted to welcome back Gen Gomlam in this powerful episode.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>How do you transform the pain of loss into something life-enhancing? In this conversation, Gen Gomlam \u2013 a Buddhist nun and former hospice nurse \u2013 shares her deeply personal journey through grief, from the loss of her brother to the healing of her relationship with her father.<\/p>\n<p>Drawing on Buddha&#039;s teachings on the mind, she explores how attachment keeps us locked in pain, why grief isn&#039;t the badge of love we think it is, and how real happiness can only be found within.<\/p>\n<p>Whether you&#039;re navigating loss right now or simply want to understand your mind better, this conversation offers practical wisdom and genuine hope.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><strong>Chapters<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>00:00 Introduction<\/p>\n<p>00:24 Early Experiences With Loss<\/p>\n<p>04:11 Pain Comes From Our Reaction<\/p>\n<p>06:41 Understanding Attachment<\/p>\n<p>11:27 Prolonged Grief Is Attachment<\/p>\n<p>19:07 Love Doesn&#039;t Die When They Die<\/p>\n<p>20:36 Healing With Her Father<\/p>\n<p>27:02 Tara&#039;s Mantra and the Funeral<\/p>\n<p>31:03 Looking for Love vs. Loving Others<\/p>\n<p>34:00 Therapy, Dharma and Lasting Change<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><strong>Book References<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/kadampa.org\/book\/how-to-understand-the-mind\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"ugc noopener noreferrer\"><em>How to Understand the Mind<\/em><\/a>\u00a0 by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso<\/p>\n<p>Gen Kelsang Gomlam is a senior teacher within the New Kadampa Tradition, an international Buddhist tradition with over a thousand meditation centers worldwide.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><strong>Want More?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Find a meditation center near you:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/kadampa.org\/nkt-center-search\/?lang=en\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"ugc noopener noreferrer\">https:\/\/kadampa.org\/nkt-center-search\/?lang=en<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Listen to teaching clips:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/5QPCFEyZz74nOHZbQr1B4z\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"ugc noopener noreferrer\">https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/5QPCFEyZz74nOHZbQr1B4z<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Subscribe to get notifications of new episodes.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><strong>Follow the Modern Buddhism Podcast<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Facebook:<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/modernbuddhismpodcast\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"ugc noopener noreferrer\"> https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/modernbuddhismpodcast<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Instagram:<a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/modernbuddhismpodcast\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"ugc noopener noreferrer\"> https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/modernbuddhismpodcast\/<\/a><\/p>\n<p>TikTok:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@modernbuddhismpodcast\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"ugc noopener noreferrer\">https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@modernbuddhismpodcast<\/a><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>#KadampaBuddhism #ModernBuddhism #GesheKelsangGyatso #Geshela #TrainTheMind #ModernLifeBuddhism #InnerPeace #MindTraining #KadampaLife #BuddhistPodcast #HappinessWithin #MeditationPractice #SpiritualJourney #NewKadampaTradition<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I Grieved for 20 Years\u2026 Until I Learned This We are delighted to welcome back Gen Gomlam in this powerful episode.\u00a0 How do you transform the pain of loss into something life-enhancing? 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